Child training
Children are the trust of Allah Almighty. And the truth is that children are children, so it should be our first priority to provide them with a conducive, happy and safe environment. When parents are asked to strengthen their relationship with their children with love and respect from childhood, there is no need to scold, beat or humiliate them. So the next question is whether they should not be told anything at all, or whether children do not listen at all unless they are scolded.
So the point is that you must say it, explain it again and again, and show it by doing, stick to the principles, but scold them, hurt their self-respect.
Establish daily rules and regulations for children and enforce them. Where strict behavior is unavoidable, adopt them, but do not scold and humiliate them. Children's self-esteem is also very important.
Yes, it is certain that if children are scolded, beaten or humiliated from childhood, then they get used to the same behavior.
.👉 attention seeking
.💎 Provide the “conducive environment” you are looking for. For example, if you want the child to study, instead of repeatedly saying and shouting at the child for not studying, create a "conducive environment" for studying. The most important thing is that you also become a part of this favorable environment. Give one book to the child and take one in your hand. There will be no scolding.
💎Don't be stubborn with children
Often times we feel that children are becoming stubborn and stubborn. Attention is needed here. Consider whether the child is being stubborn or us. If it is not harmful then let him do it as this is his learning age. But if there is fear of harm or injury, explain and inform the consequences according to the child's age.
Keep expectations from children to a minimum
Explain and tell again and again, but it is not possible to expect that their every behavior will be like a grown-up and sensible person. They will make mistakes and do mischief so try to be around them and learn to forgive.
.💎Providing alternatives.
For example, “children use smart phones repeatedly and are not ready to return them even after playing for a long time.
According to doctors, using smart phones for more than ten minutes has a very bad effect on children's vision as well as brain. So, depending on the age, provide children with physical activity, writing, drawing, reading, games or toys as alternatives to the phone. Better not to make them addicted to the phone and delete all the games from it. Even if you have to be strict, stick to the principle. If you "deny" something inappropriate, stand firm but avoid excessive scolding. For example, if you don't want to give the phone, just say "no" and tell the reason that your eyes may be damaged, etc., but don't humiliate them.
If you want to teach study, homework or any new skill, be patient, otherwise the child will hate this work. If you scold or hit during this time, know that his senses will stop working for forty minutes and his mind will go into a state of fear and self-preservation. Therefore, it is very important to be gentle while teaching.
💡Never let children go to sleep crying, sad or angry. Whatever the case, calm them down before bed. Perform ablution, pray, tell a story and plan the next day together.
No matter what the situation, no matter how big the problem, never stop talking or talking to your children. They are children, explain them, explain them again and again and be sure to warn them of the potential pitfalls.
⭕ Let the children ask all sorts of questions. They have to learn that way. If the parents don't answer, they will get an answer from a friend or the Internet. So, be mentally prepared for all kinds of questions. It is best to answer every question in the light of religion.
Friendship brings colors. Be sure to get complete information about your children's friends. Be especially aware of their day-to-day affairs. It is better to make them aware from childhood that Allah loves to make good friends.
🥇 Don't put undue pressure on getting more marks or coming first in the class. Be sure to encourage and help them in their studies, but if you are overly strict in this matter, the children may suffer from severe mental stress.
🕌 Whatever action or behavior is to be taught, demonstrate it yourself. Saying "Read Namaz" will not make them habit. If you make it a habit to pray with them, they will also start praying.
.👉 "Where children listen to us, they see us" so you have to be the way you want to see children.
⛔️ Try to get over your childhood deprivation, trauma or trauma before becoming a parent. This is necessary, otherwise it can have a negative effect on the children even unintentionally.
heal yourself before having children
As Muslims, the greatest support we have is to pray to Allah
O our Lord, grant us the coolness of our eyes from our wives and our children and make us leaders of the pious. Al-Quran
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